tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5196861204613644247.comments2023-04-27T10:52:38.875-04:00Bereavement SupportDianahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11664653382838996212noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5196861204613644247.post-27392852142632792542009-06-12T14:56:40.895-04:002009-06-12T14:56:40.895-04:00Thanks for sharing that post--I read it and really...Thanks for sharing that post--I read it and really enjoyed it. We do need to remember little ones who are grieving, too.<br /><br />Kim Carolan<br />Author of Walking through the Valley of the Shadow of Death<br />http://walkingthroughthevalleyoftheshadow.blogspot.comKimberly Carolanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13388301821439388603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5196861204613644247.post-23270849312735221452009-05-19T15:07:00.000-04:002009-05-19T15:07:00.000-04:00That's fabulous. Thanks for the Twitter follow. ...That's fabulous. Thanks for the Twitter follow. Now I'm stalking you back :)therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5196861204613644247.post-68346258879798291872009-01-23T19:36:00.000-05:002009-01-23T19:36:00.000-05:00Dear Diana: My loss, 21 mos 9 days ago, never get...Dear Diana: My loss, 21 mos 9 days ago, never gets less, just slightly greater. But, I had a suspicion, from the start, it would be so !<BR/>There's never any warning, I just try to stay busy every day, one day at a time, then BAM, it hits, out of the blue & there's nothing that can be done to prevent it. <BR/>One thing only, that I've found to be of extreme comfort & that's my faith in God.<BR/>Our many friends & relatives, who have no idea what heart break really is like, have distanced themselves. I've 4 couples, who do understand & I highly value their friendship. <BR/>As for the rest, I pray that they'll never have this tremendous grief, but should they, I'd certainly be there for them.<BR/><BR/>One thing I've shared with many & it is one of the many helpful scriptures, is this: <BR/>Christ will never leave us nor forsake us, no matter what !!!<BR/>My dear late Mom, taught me that as a small 5 yr old & now I understand why.<BR/><BR/>May God Bless & keep you safe & secure.Sheilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13224488489368611047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5196861204613644247.post-64262902495277599742006-08-08T16:53:00.000-04:002006-08-08T16:53:00.000-04:00MY BROTHER WAS KILLED SIX WEEKS AGO TODAY I STARTE...MY BROTHER WAS KILLED SIX WEEKS AGO TODAY I STARTED GOING BEREAVMENT COUNCILING LAST WEEK 2TONIGHT WAS MY SECOND TIME I FEEL WORSE SINCE I STARTED DONT THINK I WILL GO BACK AS I FEEL WHAT THE COUNCILORS SAYS IS IRELAVENT TO MEAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5196861204613644247.post-74977339628463781792006-08-08T19:25:00.000-04:002006-08-08T19:25:00.000-04:00I'm sorry to hear about your brother, and also...I'm sorry to hear about your brother, and also sorry to hear that you had a bad experience with grief counseling. When talking with grieving individuals, I warn that individual counseling and support groups are not for everyone. You basically have to jump in, give it a try and see what works for you. <br><br>It seems individual counseling didn't fit well for you. I know in session, some uncomfortable and painful things are discussed. Grief by itself, feels pretty bad. Perhaps a support group would be a better fit for you. If you need help finding one in your area, I can certainly try to help. Some people prefer to work through things on their own. If you would like some information on grief that you can read on your own, I can send that to you either via e-mail or through snail mail. If you are close to our office, we have a library and you can borrow books or videos as well.<br><br>I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.<br><br>Sincerely,<br><br>DianaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5196861204613644247.post-31196725273149104192006-04-05T17:29:00.000-04:002006-04-05T17:29:00.000-04:00Good luck with your new venture. We are all going ...Good luck with your new venture. We are all going to experience loss someday and it is nice to know that there are professionals out there who are ready to help us cope. <br><br>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5196861204613644247.post-87186176432264740232006-07-18T13:39:00.000-04:002006-07-18T13:39:00.000-04:00That's just my take, what's yours?That's just my take, what's yours?<br><br>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5196861204613644247.post-91780441333737558982006-12-09T01:04:00.000-05:002006-12-09T01:04:00.000-05:00"Five Wishes" has some nice qualities, but its cho..."Five Wishes" has some nice qualities, but its choice of wording might leave some people in severe pain at the end of life. Further information is on a video at www.CaringAdvocates.orgAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5196861204613644247.post-7242914813857906072006-12-09T06:15:00.000-05:002006-12-09T06:15:00.000-05:00drterman - Thank you so much for adding such an im...drterman - Thank you so much for adding such an important piece of information to this topic. I encourage readers to offer comments because this is a great forum for education and support, and we all learn from each other. <br><br>Have a great weekend! DianaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5196861204613644247.post-727173740582028142007-03-28T23:16:00.000-04:002007-03-28T23:16:00.000-04:00I too feel like my beloved and I are parted only b...I too feel like my beloved and I are parted only by this physical plane. I also am so very depressed and have been for almost a year. crippled to the point of such despare I took to my room, afraid of everything. I am afraid to make choces. Afraid they will be the wrong ones. I now find myself stronger and wanting to shed this cloak of darkness. I feel ready, am I ready? I don't know guess I will find out when I take that first step outside of this comfort zone. "Walking the process of falling and catching ones self."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5196861204613644247.post-24011209078716744262008-02-21T15:58:00.000-05:002008-02-21T15:58:00.000-05:00I lost my husband 8 years ago this March and I sti...I lost my husband 8 years ago this March and I still don't seem to be able to get a grip on moving forward. I have my 2 sons and 1 daughter lots of grandbabies and friends but it just lingers. The void is awful, I know God had a reason but I just don't think some people understand it till it happens to them! He was my second husband as I divorced the first maybe that is why I am reluctant to even try to date.<br> DebAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5196861204613644247.post-15814338426955105792008-02-21T16:32:00.000-05:002008-02-21T16:32:00.000-05:00Hi Deb, If you would like to e-mail me at bereave...Hi Deb, If you would like to e-mail me at bereavement@karenannquinlanhospice.org, I can send you an attachment titled, "When Grief Doesn't Heal." It helps explains some components that may make it difficult to get through the grief process. I also do agree with you that once we've been hurt a couple of times, through divorce, or through death, we are very hesitant to put our hearts and our emotions out there again for fear of feeling pain again. This too can heal, once we remove some of the components that may be complicating our grief.<br><br>DianaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5196861204613644247.post-64086965231086642532007-03-25T18:57:00.000-04:002007-03-25T18:57:00.000-04:00Hi,I wanted to introduce myself. My book, The Fore...Hi,<br><br>I wanted to introduce myself. My book, The Forever Dog, comes out in a few days and deals with this painful topic. I wonder if you have any suggestions as to how to get my book in front of the people who need it?<br><br>web.mac.com/thebillcochranAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5196861204613644247.post-46238214413325824492007-03-28T23:27:00.000-04:002007-03-28T23:27:00.000-04:00Hello My name is Rosye. My husband passed Oct.5, ...Hello My name is Rosye. My husband passed Oct.5, 2005. How do I get through the grief? I am so sad. Please I want to feel better. Rosyev22@yahoo.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5196861204613644247.post-64106796847798707552007-04-13T22:30:00.000-04:002007-04-13T22:30:00.000-04:00When my brother was killed my "best" friend at the...When my brother was killed my "best" friend at the time found the need to lecture me to "get over it". I remember it so vividly. <br><br>I was back in graduate school, five days after the funeral. Someone ELSE's utterly insensitive act (a visual of a mangled motorcycle, flashed on a movie screen, which is how Randy died, and not because of anything HE did, but the careless driving of another) sent me rushing out of a class to the womens room where I cried quietly in a stall. <br><br>She stood outside the stall and told me to get over it. She said she did not have a sibling but had a friend as close as one and that friend died and she just knew how I felt and I had to get over it.<br><br>I basically never talked to her again.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5196861204613644247.post-31833831724943265022007-04-13T22:00:00.000-04:002007-04-13T22:00:00.000-04:00Diana This was a lovely story. Your calm and matte...Diana <br><br>This was a lovely story. Your calm and matter of fact manner of telling it speaks much about your gift as a counselor. I am looking forward to reading all of your entries.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5196861204613644247.post-1958958692267073812007-05-21T02:57:00.000-04:002007-05-21T02:57:00.000-04:00I really appreciated the analogy of the "Goog...I really appreciated the analogy of the "Google Search and FAQ's." That is very true in how dealing with grief can be and the need to have answers to my questions. I am really searching for help with my own grief. <br><br>A month ago my brother died suddenly of a heart attack. Now grief is not something new to me. I lost my dad when I was 17 and my mother died when I was 37. So I somehow managed to go through the grieving process pretty well intact. I also was a medical social worker for years and worked for a time in Hospice, but what I'm going through right now I can't seem to get on top of. <br><br>With my brother's death, I am feeling so much rage. I realize that some of it has to do with where I'm at in my life. The fact that I'm living in Canada with my wonderful husband and young son, but away from my extended family. Also, I live in a city of a million people and I feel so alone except for a couple of close friends (who I'm friends with because we're all moms) and of course my immediate family. It's hard to explain, but I feel angry that during the time after my brother's death and during the few days of the funeral and planning, that was all the time I was around people who were grieving or at least understood. Of course I wasn't truly grieving at that time....I was just numb. <br><br>I feel like once I returned to my "life" following the funeral, I was expected to join the human race again as though my brother's death was nothing more than a "blip on the radar screen" of my life. <br><br>I am searching for others who share not only grief, but the grief of a sibling. Because I do know it's totally different than losing a parent, spouse or child. But nevertheless, it is a grief to work through. <br><br>So if anyone has any other sites or suggestions, I would be totally open to them. I am going to read through the other posts on thisAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5196861204613644247.post-77935966511854763372007-05-22T06:59:00.000-04:002007-05-22T06:59:00.000-04:00Lynnette, Thank you for posting your thoughts her...Lynnette, Thank you for posting your thoughts here, and also for visiting this blog. I hope you find the information a small help or comfort. I'm truly sorry for the loss of your brother. I can't even begin to imagine what you must be going through. <br><br>I agree that society expects people to get right back into the normal grind of daily living. It's not possible, nor is it practical. I often tell people who come to see me that it's as if they, the bereaved, become educators to the rest of the world in what is appropriate in grief. Like you need one more thing to heap on your plate, right? I have found that it's the people who respond in that way are the people who have not yet experienced a significant loss. I actually do have clients who say that they said certain things or behaved a certain way to someone who had a loss, not knowing how hurtful they were being, until they had a loss of their own. <br><br>I think you have good intuitions though - you know that you have a good support system in your immediate family, but you are also sensing that you need more. I agree. The more supports the better. We need to talk, cry, laugh and share memories of our loved ones, with everyone, if possible - to be able to move through the grief process. Many people have found support among websites and support groups. I must confess I'm not familiar with what's available in your area. But I will do some poking around on my end to see if I can find something that may be helpful to you in terms of sibling loss.<br><br>In the meantime, please know that you can always leave comments, e-mail (see link on home page), or call (we have an 800 number), and I will always try to be available to you and help in any way that I can. <br><br>My thoughts and prayers are with you.<br><br>Sincerely, DianaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5196861204613644247.post-25752754462936282512007-06-08T23:41:00.000-04:002007-06-08T23:41:00.000-04:00WWW.MALIBUBARKIE.COMMALIBU BARKIE .com .. On-line ...WWW.MALIBUBARKIE.COM<br><br>MALIBU BARKIE .com .. On-line Pet Boutique understands taking care of yourself and your family isn't a trend but "A WAY OF LIFE". 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Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5196861204613644247.post-66228470549229988872007-01-19T06:22:00.000-05:002007-01-19T06:22:00.000-05:00Donald L. Kane (Don) was my beloved husband. He p...Donald L. Kane (Don) was my beloved husband. He passed away suddenly in November 2006 at the age of 56, a week after our daughter, Jacqueline, got married. He was a wonderful, loving, caring, hardworking man who never hurt a soul in his life. He was very quiet, and you might think he wasn’t paying attention, but he never missed anything and never forgot anyone he ever met or worked with over the years. He was an animal lover, too…he brought home almost every stray that crossed his path over the years…4 dogs, a hamster, 6 baby rabbits. We had 34 wonderful years together. We really never fought…honest. I was a stay-at-home Mom while our daughter, Jacqueline, was growing up. Don joined a father-daughter organization when Jacqueline was young and they spent many weekends camping with other dads and daughters. He attended every dance recital and sports activity she was ever involved in, and believe me, there were many (he thought that was important because his own Dad died when he was 9). He worked in construction and sometimes lamented that he hadn’t accomplished much in his lifetime. I always considered our lives pretty perfect; we never had a lot of money, but never a lot of debt, either. He was a great man in our eyes and we were rich in the things that were really important. Don worked harder than he played over the years…construction does that…busy when the weather is nice and time to do things when the weather is bad. With Jacqueline graduated from college and getting married, we were planning for retirement at the shore (early retirement, I had hoped)…boating, fishing, and walks on the beach…just cramming all the relaxing missed over the years into one permanent vacation. He is the largest part of who I am today and I miss him with every ounce of my being; he was my best friend as well as my husband. I love him dearly and hope that I told him that enough.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5196861204613644247.post-82263326301024921952007-01-26T17:42:00.000-05:002007-01-26T17:42:00.000-05:00Remember: Charles E. (Gene) Keith, my loving spou...Remember: Charles E. (Gene) Keith, my loving spouse of 34 years who suddenly passed away on December 15, 2006. I feel I have a hole in my being without him. He was a kind, caring and wonderful man who loved his family and God with all his heart. He was retired from Phillips Petroleum for about 8 years and worked as a contractor and built houses for the last several years.<br><br>Cheryl KeithAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5196861204613644247.post-75796551157732934532007-04-13T18:55:00.000-04:002007-04-13T18:55:00.000-04:00Kenneth James, 45. Gone from this earth way too so...Kenneth James, 45. Gone from this earth way too soon. A brave person who quietly fought a battle with cancer. Among his selfless commitments to others, Ken was a volunteer Fireman with Engine Co #1 Pompton Plains, NJ, for many years.<br>In the time after his diagnosis, Ken never wallowed in self-pity. Through it all, he was a rock for the rest of us who asked plenty of times, "why him?". Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5196861204613644247.post-18961367790094893242007-04-13T21:41:00.000-04:002007-04-13T21:41:00.000-04:00Ruth Sebzda, my Mother. Another of my five role mo...Ruth Sebzda, my Mother. Another of my five role models (Jack Barrett from an earlier post was another). My Mom was always there for my Father, Sisters and me in so many important ways that it would be impossible to describe them all. Words cannot describe what she means to me. Lets just say I love her and I will miss her terribly. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5196861204613644247.post-9163476825354914972007-05-17T15:33:00.000-04:002007-05-17T15:33:00.000-04:00Missing AaronMy beloved grandson Aaron died on Mar...Missing Aaron<br>My beloved grandson Aaron died on March 13th, 2007. He was 24 years old & the light of my life. I miss him so very much & keep asking "why", why him & not me. He was a young man with his life ahead of him. There are many things I ask myself, such as What If, If Only. My wound is so deep & hurts beyond belief. Knowing I will never see his smiling face & sparkling eyes, running thru the grass with his dog is more than I can deal with. How do you get thru these days? I know that life will never be the same again, how could it be. When does that pain inside of you ease? Please God, keep Aaron close to you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com